What is happiness? How pleased are you out of your life?
If you were asked, would you answer “very pleased” without even hesitating a bit?
Honestly, I spent many years of my life without being able to understand I was not pleased with my life. I guess the everyday routine took me with her and I did not find time to stand still and think. Never took time to question whether I lived my life in happiness or not
The “Dream Job”
For the last thirteen years, I had been working as a business consultant. It started as a nine-to-five job with a great career and financial prospects. I never felt really enthusiastic about it. But, the money was good and clients appreciated my work, so it felt like a reward.
Friends and family were happy and proud of me and my “dream job” as it might seem in their eyes. Finally, I could rent a bigger apartment in a nice neighborhood. I had enough money to travel. Did not no need to have second thoughts if I liked something and wanted to buy it.
I guess you would say that that was great. And yes, I definitely liked the fact that I finally could live without thinking of my finances every single moment. That I could live in an apartment I like, that I could travel and shop whenever I wanted to.
But I just couldn’t do it whenever I wanted to.
When the “Dream Job” Turned Into Nightmare…Hard to Find Happiness
The nine to five job schedule very soon became nine to whatever time the job is done. Considering the fact that most of the clients I was working for were situated at least one hour driving away from home, that also extended my working schedule.
And the deadlines, oh the deadlines…. So much stress and pressure because we had to stick with the project plan and deliver on time.
So, I had a job that offered me financial security and the prospect of a better life.
But, I was renting a great apartment which I was actually using as a hotel since I would use it only to have a shower and get some sleep. I could travel, yes, and I would travel every time I had the chance. And this is something that I loved and am grateful for.
The thing is that I constantly had the need to travel because I needed it as an escape from the life I was living. I would shop and spend money not because I needed the staff I was buying but because I could. Thinking about buying staff as a form of temporary happiness.
And then bam!
Coronavirus arrived and changed everything worldwide.
To all of us it was and in some aspects still is a shock. But the greatest change it brought to my life was that I stopped traveling and started working from home. Everything related to work was ready in just a few hours so the transition was quite fast and sudden.
There was no need to drive to the other side of the city, not even need to take off my pajamas in order to work. I found it as a great chance to finally enjoy my apartment and get some “me” time.
The isolation that came along with the lockdown to me was not that horrible as it was to others. I have always enjoyed solitude and having such a busy schedule as I used to have did not offer me enough time to recharge myself.
Time to Stand Still and Look Inside to Find Happiness
It was at that time that I found the time to stand still and think about myself, my life, my needs, and my feelings.
Another thing that I did not mention, for which I am really grateful since my job financially allowed me to take it, was a Master’s Degree in Creative Writing. I had really studied hard due to lack of time but by the time Coronavirus arrived I had already finished all my lessons and there was only my master thesis that I had to submit.
If it wasn’t for Coronavirus and the lockdown work from home status I don’t know if I could have ever made it on time and submitted my master thesis. While spending my time equally to work and studying during the first lockdown I realized even more how fulfilling writing is to me. And yes, to me writing is a form of happiness.
Time to Blog
Even after the lockdown had finished I never got back to the office, I kept on working from home. It was at some point during last March that I felt like I needed to communicate my writing with others and thought of starting a blog.
I had tried it again in the past but quit within days. I never stick to it long enough to understand whether I liked it or not. This time was different. As I said above I needed to communicate my writing. When you understand that you do something because not only do you just like it but also because you feel that you need it, you do it under totally different terms.
Of course, the job did not become less demanding, tiring, or stressful just because I was working from home. But something had changed. Even if I felt exhausted I would still sit on my laptop for a few hours after work trying to find out how blogging works, write a post, etc.
It was something new. It was engaging and it was related to what I love most, writing. What I realized was that I would spend hours trying to figure out things but the amazing thing was that I would not feel tired. Blogging offered happiness to me.
Reading about bloggers that manage to make a great income out of their posts I honestly admire them. Hope that I will be as good as them one day!
Well, I know I know…. I have a million things to learn and should work really hard to get there.
Happiness Follows The Decision For Change
My job went crazy last few months. There was a point when I felt like I was ready to collapse due to stress and too much pressure, so I decided to resign. After all, it was not like I ever really liked the life I was living the last 13 years of my life. I am grateful for all the things it allowed me to do and have but no, I cannot recall even a single moment that I felt happy in it.
I am also grateful about some people I had the chance to meet but I strongly believe that you never really lose those you care about. So I am not sad about it. I will be in touch with them. Not every day in touch because I have to but now and then in touch because I want to.
I don’t know what I will be doing from now on. I will definitely be blogging more because every day I realize how much I like it. Apart from that, whatever happens, I decided that I will not let myself be carried away again by any routine. I will be sitting still and listening to myself and its needs.
Time is precious to waste in things that don’t offer us any joy at all.
“Happiness is a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is a constant work-in-progress – the solutions to today’s problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow’s problems, and so on. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.”Mark Manson