Do you feel you are wasting your valuable time working on something that is not for you? Do you keep wondering why the hell you are doing so while you should be looking for your purpose instead? Well, most people do so and usually for most of their lives. Some people even die without having ever found their purpose. But what I suggest here is that you should stop looking for your purpose, and let me explain why.
Most of us believe that our purpose is some sort of destination. We have this illusion created inside our minds that sometime we will find something extraordinary. We are willing to pursue our purpose until we finally find it, although it might never happen. It is most likely that we will run out of time while doing so, or, even worst we might just run out of hope. This would only make us feel miserable and worthless.
We should not see purpose as a destination. To be totally honest, I do not think that purpose is even the right word.
Why You Need to Stop Looking for Purpose
1. Looking for Purpose Increases Your Anxiety
Living your life with the thought that you have to find your purpose in life is more like a big reason to make you feel anxious rather than a motivation. What if you spend years of your life and still haven’t found your purpose? Is this idea of something bigger than you, that you should aim for real? Are you capable of finding it? Is there something wrong with you? Why is it taking you so damn long?
All these questions looking for answers definitely can cause tremendous levels of stress if someone is prone to it. Usually, when we give up on looking for something, it magically appears right in front of us. Sometimes it is our anticipation to get somewhere which prevents us from seeing how close we actually are.
Let go of your expectations of how things should be. Let go of your expectations of yourself. Enjoy life each step of the way. A less stressful life is definitely a better life.
“Whenever you become anxious or stressed, outer purpose has taken over, and you lost sight of your inner purpose. You have forgotten that your state of consciousness is primary, all else secondary.”Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose
2. Purpose is Already Part of you Not Something you Have to Look for Out There
Understand that what people usually call your purpose is already a part of you. It is not something you have to look for out there to find. It is actually a better understanding of yourself, your talents, gifts, and values. Once you understand yourself and value him for what he is, you will start living with purpose each step of the way.
Instead of looking for a purpose, try to understand what is your gift. Stop looking for your purpose and get a better understanding of why people mostly need you for.
Usually, others ask you to write something for them or review something they have written? Then maybe writing or editing is your skill. Do people ask for your opinion about fashion? Maybe fashion is your gift. We are all good at several things, but sometimes others have a better understanding than we do.
Changing your perspective to focus on what you already have rather than something that is outside of you only means that you no longer need to look for a purpose.
3. There is No One Life Purpose
Exactly as your talents and what you are better at are not only one thing, there is no one life purpose. You might have different purposes for different aspects of your life and probably that is correct since nobody is just one thing.
4. Looking For Purpose is Not Something Bigger than You
You usually think of purpose as something big which is out of your reach. You think that purpose is something you must fight for, but only those who are gifted enough finally reach it. This idea, which is tightly connected with the word “purpose” generates fear and self-doubt.
Understanding yourself and your talents is something that can make that fear go away and allow you to build confidence in yourself.
5. You Can Only Find Purpose Through Action
Whatever your purpose in life is, there is no point in just looking for it. Most of the time, just wondering whether it is one thing, or another is just pointless. You can only find your purpose in life through action.
Start doing things. Try new things. Do not just investigate theoretically. The purpose is a road, not a destination. Try things and then decide that something is not for you. Fail and be bad at several things until you find something which you will be great at if you stay with it for long enough.
6. Understand Where You are in Life to Find Your Purpose
Stop looking for your purpose and understand where you stand in your life. Are you pleased with it? Do you experience joy through your actions, job, and overall life? Is there anything more you can do? Can you change what no longer feels right?
Take action to improve your life the best way you can. Learn to live your life intentionally. Learn how to live your life by doing things and making decisions. Stop looking for purpose and start living with purpose instead.
Final Thoughts on Why You Should Stop Looking For Purpose
Most people think of purpose as something they have to look for, while purpose is actually more like a process and a way of living. Living your life with purpose means that you live your life aiming to grow, learn, and understand yourself and the world a bit more every day.
Your actions and the work you put into anything bring meaning and purpose into your life. They also help you discover how you can achieve personal growth, extend your skills and talents, and create a new vision for yourself.
The world often feels like a hostile place to live, but it is important to live our lives with purpose, and it is more important to understand that purpose is not something we look for and find it. Our purpose is something each one of us creates.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”Eleanor Roosevelt
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