These last two years were really strange and hard for all of us. Life as we knew it was turned upside down and we were all forced to spend a long time isolated, most of us away from families and loved ones. We all had to deal with the unknown. Fear was what we all felt. In situations like these, how could you feel happy alone or even be happy with yourself?
For most people isolation was hard but it seems that there were some who suffered dramatically more during this period compared to some others.
Personally, I wouldn’t say that I suffered that much. I was always an introvert and I was suffering when I was not able to find time to spend on my own. So, at least at the beginning of it all, this isolation was even welcomed.
Mostly out of choice, I still live a bit isolated and I do enjoy it. To some of my friends that were always in much need of other people around them, this isolation of mine is something they will never understand.
Everyone is different of course but I don’t think it is that hard to be happy with yourself only. Even when no one else is there with you, you can always find ways and feel happy alone.
8 Tips to Learn How to Be Happy With Yourself
Let Yourself be Someone You Really Like
Have you ever thought of what you look for in other people? Don’t you like them to be interesting, funny, caring, and passionate about the things they love? Why not let yourself be one of the people you would look for to meet?
Evolve yourself. Find new interests and things you enjoy learning more about. Get passionate about something and enjoy yourself while working on it. Allow yourself to become the person you always wanted to meet and spend time with and let him be your best friend.
Allow Yourself to Feel Happy When Alone
We all have obligations and things we have to complete. Sometimes life can be exhausting and we only can find time for the necessary. It is important to understand that no matter what, you have to always find time for something that will allow you even a few moments of happiness.
It doesn’t have to be something big. Even a hot shower, a five minutes phone call to a loved one, a ten-minute read of a good book, listening loud to your favorite song while dancing along. These are small things that will allow you to feel joy and be happy with yourself.
Avoid Whatever Brings You Down
If you can identify that something brings you down and you have the option just avoid it. Avoid doing things that make you feel bad about yourself, people who try to put you down, sad movies, depressing songs, anything!
If there is something you do that reveals aspects of yourself that you don’t like keep a distance from. Try to understand why that happens, try to explain it, and look for a solution. If you can’t deal with it yourself look for professional help.
Why should you torture yourself when you may choose not to?
Disconnect from everything. Get out of the internet and social media. Shut down your phone and your TV. Get in touch with your closest and dearest friend, yourself!
Sometimes the other people, messages, calls, everything is just noise. Sometimes these noises are there just to distract and disturb you. Too much attention on them may be bad for your mental health. When you are frustrated, nervous, anxious they can all become so loud noises that could prevent you from hearing your own thoughts.
The disconnect is needed to clear your mind and relax.
“Tension is who you think you should be, relaxation is who you are.”Chinese Proverb
Go Outside and Contact with Nature
It was impressive how rejuvenating were the small walks we were allowed during the lockdown. Get outside, feel the sun, the wind, the rain. Take deep breaths and if possible do all of them in nature. The world is such a beautiful, wisely created, and peaceful place to be. Nature is here to remind us of that.
“The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, then there will be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be.”Anne Frank
Move your Body
If moving your body could be combined with nature it would be ideal. If not movement alone still is beneficial. Find a workout you can do at home that you really like and don’t just do it because you have to. Use the stairs when possible or just play some music and dance. Your body will feel better with movement, why do you keep it away from it?
What would you do to please a dear friend? Cook for him? Bake him cookies? Buy him dinner at a restaurant? Maybe a spa day gift? Everything you can think of, just do it to treat your closest friend who is always there for you, yourself. You don’t necessarily need someone else to do that.
Ask for Help
Last but not at all least, when you need help just ask for it. Asking for help is no sign of weakness. On the contrary, asking for help means that you are aware of yourself and your limits, and let’s admit it, we all have limits. To feel ok to ask for help means that you are happy with yourself even though you are aware of those limits.
Conclusion on How to Be Happy with Yourself and Feel Happy Alone
Happiness and fulfillment both are an inside job. People around us and the circumstances will never be ideal and can never help us as much as we can help ourselves.
“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.”Lao Tzu
What are your tips to be happy with yourself?
Are you able to feel happy even when you are alone?