These last two years were really strange and hard for all of us. Life as we knew it was turned upside down and we were all forced to spend a long time isolated, most of us away from families and loved ones. We all had to deal with the unknown. Fear was what we all felt. In situations like these, how could you feel happy alone or even be happy with yourself?
For most people isolation was hard but it seems that there were some who suffered dramatically more during this period compared to some others.
Personally, I wouldn’t say that I suffered that much. I was always an introvert and I was suffering when I was not able to find time to spend on my own. So, at least at the beginning of it all, this isolation was even welcomed.
Mostly out of choice, I still live a bit isolated and I do enjoy it. To some of my friends that were always in much need of other people around them, this isolation of mine is something they will never understand.
Everyone is different of course but I don’t think it is that hard to be happy with yourself only. Even when no one else is there with you, you can always find ways and feel happy alone.
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8 Tips to Learn How to Be Happy With Yourself
Let Yourself be Someone You Really Like
Have you ever thought of what you look for in other people? Don’t you like them to be interesting, funny, caring, and passionate about the things they love? Why not let yourself be one of the people you would look for to meet?
Evolve yourself. Find new interests and things you enjoy learning more about. Get passionate about something and enjoy yourself while working on it. Allow yourself to become the person you always wanted to meet and spend time with and let him be your best friend.
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Allow Yourself to Feel Happy When Alone
We all have obligations and things we have to complete. Sometimes life can be exhausting and we only can find time for the necessary. It is important to understand that no matter what, you have to always find time for something that will allow you even a few moments of happiness.
It doesn’t have to be something big. Even a hot shower, a five minutes phone call to a loved one, a ten-minute read of a good book, listening loud to your favorite song while dancing along. These are small things that will allow you to feel joy and be happy with yourself.
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Avoid Whatever Brings You Down
If you can identify that something brings you down and you have the option just avoid it. Avoid doing things that make you feel bad about yourself, people who try to put you down, sad movies, depressing songs, anything!
If there is something you do that reveals aspects of yourself that you don’t like keep a distance from. Try to understand why that happens, try to explain it, and look for a solution. If you can’t deal with it yourself look for professional help.
Why should you torture yourself when you may choose not to?
Disconnect
Disconnect from everything. Get out of the internet and social media. Shut down your phone and your TV. Get in touch with your closest and dearest friend, yourself!
Sometimes the other people, messages, calls, everything is just noise. Sometimes these noises are there just to distract and disturb you. Too much attention on them may be bad for your mental health. When you are frustrated, nervous, anxious they can all become so loud noises that could prevent you from hearing your own thoughts.
The disconnect is needed to clear your mind and relax.
“Tension is who you think you should be, relaxation is who you are.”
Chinese Proverb
Go Outside and Contact with Nature
It was impressive how rejuvenating were the small walks we were allowed during the lockdown. Get outside, feel the sun, the wind, the rain. Take deep breaths and if possible do all of them in nature. The world is such a beautiful, wisely created, and peaceful place to be. Nature is here to remind us of that.
“The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, then there will be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be.”
Anne Frank
Move your Body
If moving your body could be combined with nature it would be ideal. If not movement alone still is beneficial. Find a workout you can do at home that you really like and don’t just do it because you have to. Use the stairs when possible or just play some music and dance. Your body will feel better with movement, why do you keep it away from it?
Treat Yourself
What would you do to please a dear friend? Cook for him? Bake him cookies? Buy him dinner at a restaurant? Maybe a spa day gift? Everything you can think of, just do it to treat your closest friend who is always there for you, yourself. You don’t necessarily need someone else to do that.
Ask for Help
Last but not at all least, when you need help just ask for it. Asking for help is no sign of weakness. On the contrary, asking for help means that you are aware of yourself and your limits, and let’s admit it, we all have limits. To feel ok to ask for help means that you are happy with yourself even though you are aware of those limits.
Conclusion on How to Be Happy with Yourself and Feel Happy Alone
Happiness and fulfillment both are an inside job. People around us and the circumstances will never be ideal and can never help us as much as we can help ourselves.
“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.”
Lao Tzu
What are your tips to be happy with yourself?
Are you able to feel happy even when you are alone?
I value time to myself so much.
Walking in the hills is so calming or just lying in bed longer with a book….bliss
You are right Sarah! Our time alone is precious. Thank you for commenting 🙂
As a fellow introvert, I’ve also kind of enjoyed the alone time of the last couple of years. Heading out for walks in the local forest has been great and an opportunity for me to look at my own interests and learn new things about myself
I know that all introverts of this world would relate with me on that. Everything could also be seen as an opportunity to learn new things about ourselves and I am glad you seen this one too. Thank you for commenting 🙂
This is such a great post that is so helpful. Trying to be happy with yourself can be a hard and long journey but can change your life. Thank you for sharing this post. I can be happy spending time on my own but I like to be with my loved ones also.
Lauren – bournemouthgirl
I am glad you liked it Lauren. I think we would all agree that we like spending time with our loved ones as well. Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
Yesssss!!!!!! These are the things to do to love yourself more and more. I like all tips. Thank you for sharing.
I am glad you agree with me Fadima. Thank you for commenting 🙂
thank you
I love the idea of taking what you know makes close friends and family members feel loved and happy and treating yourself to the same thing! It is an amazing way to let yourself know you are worth it, you are happy and, if you are not used to yourself yet, that you are learning. 🙂
Glad you liked it Jaya. Thank you for commenting 🙂
Great tips! Avoiding whatever brings you down going make life so much easier for us.
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It can be great to have time to yourself. This can be creative.
Writing is a lonely job Jamie you know that. Lonely but yet so creative. Thank you for commenting 🙂
I’ve always been happy alone, so much so that I have to actually monitor that carefully so I don’t just disappear, haha! I have some very close friends and family I love to be with but I am also very drawn to quiet solitude. I definitely think taking care of ourselves is something we all need to take more time to do; it’s times like the past two years that really shows us that!
Exactly Molly. The last two years taught us lots of things. Thank you for commenting 🙂
As an introvert, I love my own company. Some of my friends find it weird.
So I will share this post with them. This is helpful, thanks for sharing
People who are not introverts do find us weird.
Thank you for commenting Rayo!
Really loved this post! I especially think disconnecting is so important in todays society – it feels so good to get away from your phone for a while!
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Glad you liked it. Yes, definitely disconnecting is important for our mental health. Thank you for commenting 🙂
I love getting outside and being in nature it’s the best way for me to enjoy the alone time.
Soph xx
Totally agree! Nature is a healer. Thank you for commenting 🙂
Weirdlifestyle, thank you for sharing these awesome tips. I believe that you can’t be happy with someone else if you are not happy with yourself.
Hanging out with friends, 👪, or in nature: mountains, parks, beach ⛱, river, help improves one’s mental health and self worth.
Exactly Kevin! Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
I’m an introvert and I love being by myself. Personally I feel better when I am alone. Yes I do enjoy my time with friends and family but I do see some people struggle with being alone and I can understand especially if your an extrovert.
Yes, I can also understand. Everyone is different. Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
Whist connection is so important I definitely need some downtime for myself. It’s all about balance. I like trying to invest my free time in things I believe in or enjoy. It makes me feel like me when I’m so often balancing professional persona and how others see me etc.
Couldn’t agree more with you Emma. Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
Really needed to read this, thank you for sharing. I definitely need to start looking after myself and putting myself first x
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I am glad you found it helpful Nadine! Thank you for commenting 🙂
Another excellent post. Your posts relate to my profession so much so I really connect with them. From a personal perspective, I need to do a better job at loving myself. I do lots of things I like but there’s also a lot that I don’t like. Like you said, it’s important to try to stay away from the latter and embrace the former.
I am really happy you enjoyed it and you could relate yourself to it Paul. Thank you for commenting ❤️
Great post! I’m not one to ask for help. I love being outside, it is so therapeutic.
~Michellehttps://michellescrazybusylife.net
It definitely is therapeutic to be outside. Thank you for reading and commenting!
Glad you enjoyed this Wanda. Thank you for commenting 🙂
I am glad you could relate yourself to this one Jodie. Thank you for commenting 🙂
When I was going through my anxiety disorder, I wasn’t alone for around 7/8 years because I was terrified of being alone. I couldn’t go anywhere alone either. Now it’s a WHOLE different story and I absolutely LOVE my alone time. I actually went on my first ever little solo spa break last week and it was the most relaxing 2 days I’ve had in quite some time! I crave alone time and actually during lockdown last year, being locked down with 3 other people constantly, I was really struggling with the lack of alone time to the point where I started to dissociate and had to frantically get out of the house otherwise I felt like I might explode. Learning to love being by myself has been such a long, hard journey but so worth it x
I can totally relate with you and understand you Jenny. When we go though something where we need support from others it is hard to be left alone. I am happy to read you got over your anxiety disorder and you now enjoy your time alone. Thank you for sharing your experiences!
Sage advice and mice tips! We can’t be happy with others unless we’re happy w ourselves. Thank you.
Exactly Sue! Thank you for commenting!
Fantastic post! I think these tips are so important and we all need to be comfortable with time alone x
I am glad you liked it Eleanor. Thank you for commenting 🙂
These are wonderful suggestions! I’m with you, in that it wasn’t all that challenging for me over the past couple of years either. As someone who grew up home-educated and then almost immediately after school began working from home, I’ve always appreciated time on my own. I’m very independent and enjoy solitude, but it took a lot of work to get that way, since I was a social butterfly as a child and couldn’t live without people surrounding me. Now I’m incredibly happy with myself and find joy in living more removed from “society” so-to-speak. A lot of that has to do with the things you mentioned in this post!
I am glad you liked and you could relate yourself to this Stephanie. Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
I really loved this post! I travel alone a lot and many don’t understand it. Disconnecting & Avoid whatever brings you down – are both so important. You can’t miss out on what you don’t know! And, sometimes writing people, places and things off is the only way to better yourself. Keep up the great posts! 💕
xo Alli |
I totally agree with you Alli! I am really happy you liked it. Thank you for reading and commenting 😊
What a great post! I really enjoyed readinf rhis and learned alot. Being recently separated I needed to read this. Thank you
Glad you liked it. Thank you for commenting 🙂
I am glad you found it helpful Abida. Thank you for reading and commenting!
This is such an important post! While it’s lovely to have friends and even a partner, it might not always be that way. We need to learn to be happy with who we are as a person so that we can feel at peace with being alone should the time come.
I am glad you could relate yourself to this Nyxie. Thank you for reading and commenting!
This is a great post to remind ourselves that we should appreciate every moment of our life! 😊
Thank you for reading and commenting!
The more we can accept and love ourself, the better. It is about being your own best friend.
Many Blessings,
Lisa
Exactly Lisa. Thank you for commenting 🙂
Great tips. As a an introvert, I find the guidance vital to my well-being.
Thank you for reading and commenting Pamela!
Love this post! I think the Treat Yourself idea is the most difficult for me. But I am working on it,
I am glad you liked it. Thank you for commenting!
What a great post, and very motivating. I love the point about avoiding doing certain things that you don’t like if you can. I definitely agree with going outside and connecting with nature. It really does make you feel better and more mentally positive 🙂
Thank you for commenting 🙂
I’m someone who really struggles with being alone so I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this post. It’s something I’m slowly working on but it can be difficult at times. I really love the tips you’ve shared, thank you so much! Xo
Elle – ellegracedeveson.com
I am glad you found it helpful Elle! Thank you for commenting 🙂
These are such great tips on how to be happy with yourself! So important to practice self love as well. Thanks so much for sharing!
Glad you liked it Charity. Thank you for commenting!
Great article! 🙂 It’s so important to love your own company 🙂 Good tips. I think the older I’ve gotten the more I appreciate time alone. I’ve become kind of an ambivert because I love people but I value time with myself as well.
I am glad you liked it Andrea. Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
These are some helpful tips. Being happy and content by yourself is something that definitely takes time to come to terms with.
Thank you for this post. As an introvert, this is really helpful for me..
I am glad it was helpful!Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
This was an excellent read.
Thank you!
i’ve learned to be very content with alone time. it helps me recharge 🙂
Our time alone is precious. Thank you for commenting!
Great tips, we do need to avoid things that make us down. There are a lot of things and only to avoid them and don’t engage with them.
If we can avoid things that make us down we better do so. Thank you for commenting!
Yeah I agree that self-care is essential in finding happiness being alone. Treating yourself well is crucial. Personally, I like to indulge in a good book and some chocolate.
Everyone has different ways of practicing self-care. I do love a good book and some tea instead of chocolate.