Have you ever tried to avoid your negative thoughts? How did that go?
If you often start thinking of the worst-case scenario for every single thing, or if you sometimes think that others believe the worst about you, these are both examples of negative thoughts.
If you think that everything is either black or white and there is nothing in between, or you do let small things bother you and think about them for hours, days, or longer these are also examples of negative thoughts.
I know what you might say. Who is this person who doesn’t have any negative thoughts?
The answer is simple. Nobody.
Negative Thoughts Are Normal.
We all have negative thoughts and that is absolutely normal.
The thing is that thoughts are just thoughts and nothing more than that.
Scientists and researchers would oppose this opinion since it has been proved that thoughts interfere with the way our brain works and cause us bad feelings and emotions. Yes, thoughts can be the reason behind lots of mental and physical problems in the end. I do not disagree with that. I even admit it as a fact.
Thoughts do live in our heads and the bad thing is that sometimes we all spend more time living inside our heads than in real life.
Sometimes thoughts are just like feelings. They come and go and they may mean something or may mean nothing at all.
I don’t know about you but for me, there are those days that I wake up in a really bad mood and just don’t have the courage to have any positive thoughts. During these days I don’t feel like lying to myself that this day is going to be a great day. This is a bad day and I am in my blues but I know that this is just a day and not my life. I do not try to avoid negative thoughts. I just accept the fact that these bad days exist and I watch my thoughts. Yes, even the negative ones.
Below are some of the things that I choose to do to cope with negative thoughts and may be helpful to you also. I am not a professional, so these are just my suggestions as a person who deals with negative thinking from time to time. In case your negative thoughts are persistent you should consider asking for professional help.
Do Not Avoid Negative Thoughts, Find Out How to Handle Them
1. Accept Instead of Avoid the Negative ThoughtsDo not try to avoid negative thoughts or try to push them back. Try to understand each thought and accept the feelings that it causes to you. Give this thought some time to stay with you and embrace the feelings that are caused by it. Even if it makes you feel sad or angry, feel the sadness or the anger for some time and let it go away. It is just a thought, there is no reason to stay with you forever.
2. Be Honest with YourselfDo not try to force yourself to turn a negative thought into a positive one. Your mind is smart enough to realize that you are trying to play with it.
If it is one of those days that you feel like a loser and your thoughts are like “I am a total failure”, “I will never make it in anything” do not say “I am the best” or “Whatever I do is perfect”. It would be more honest to say “I am smart enough and I try my best and that is enough”.
Trying to stop a negative thought and turn it into a completely positive one could even have the worst results. In some cases, people who try to push anxious and negative thoughts down only manage to build them stronger until they all explode or come rushing out at once.
3. Share Instead of Avoid Negative ThoughtsIf you feel like a negative thought returns again and again try to share it with someone close to you. When we talk about something that lives in our head we have to let it come out in words. Even translating our thoughts into words and hearing them provides us with another perspective of them. Not to mention that someone close will also offer us his / her perspective.
4. Be Kind with YourselfDuring the days you feel bad and your mind is full of negative thoughts try to be kind to yourself. Make yourself a priority, try to work fewer hours or less hard than usual. Choose to spend the rest of your day doing things that make you happy like playing with your children or watching a movie that makes you laugh. You name it!
5. Take Care of YourselfThis includes your physical and mental health. Watch your diet. Junk food is ok once in a while but making it a habit is not. Make sure you have enough sleep and find a way to work out that you actually enjoy. A healthy body makes us feel good and positive about ourselves, contributing to better mental health.
6. Connect with the Right PeopleMake your small community of people the community you want to be a part of. Get rid of people who put you down or make you feel miserable. You don’t need toxic people. Keep your loved ones close, enroll in activities that offer you joy, join the team you always wanted to. Enjoy your life with those you want to.
Negative thoughts are normal. We all have them and there is no reason to be afraid of them or to try to prevent them. We cannot stop negative thoughts from coming or choose not to have them, but we can change the way we deal with them and what else we choose to think of. After all negative thoughts are just thoughts, we don’t have to believe them.
“I don’t think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains“.Anne Frank
How about you? Do you have negative thoughts?
How do you feel about them?
Is there a specific way you choose to deal with them?
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