Why making the right decision is so important? Was there a time you had to make a decision which, at least at the time you had to make it, seemed as if it was a matter of life and death?
I bet you spent hours or even days struggling to find out what would be the best choice. Do you remember what you did to identify which choice would be the best?
Trying to Identify The Right Decision
When we try to identify the right decision we all usually follow specific steps and I can tell you followed them also. You probably thought about all the alternatives and tried to figure out which choice would be the best one. You even made scenarios of what the outcome might be short-term and long-term.
That is something that is always stressful and I think is always doomed to failure.
We usually try to collect all information available, we ask for other people’s experiences and opinions. We even try to think of what would our friends and loved ones do if they had to take this specific decision? Sometimes we even ask for their advice.
And then what?
What Does The Right Choice Mean?
Is there anyone who can reassure us that there is a specific right choice for us? And after all, what does the right choice mean?
Usually, most of us are carried away by what other people usually do in similar circumstances, by what other people advise us, by what we think that other people will think about us once we make a specific decision. Sometimes even knowing how some people would react when we make a decision prevents us from moving on with it.
But, I think that if you ask the same question to 100 different persons there is a good chance you get lots of different answers, and then it gets even more confusing.
What did each one of them have in mind when giving a specific answer? Were there any specific experiences they had that led to this answer? What was the emotional status at the moment the answer was provided?
Why Nobody Can Help When You Ask “Am I Making the Right Decision?”
Truth be told. Nobody, but nobody, can really help us in making the right decision and obviously, nobody could ever reassure us whether our final decision was right.
Each and every one of us is so special and different. And that is a good thing. It is great actually!
Even if we try our best to make sure we have collected all the data available that would probably help us in making the best possible choice, we can never be absolutely sure that this was it. It might give us a sense of confidence while proceeding with it and it will also give us this feeling of completion that we tried to find out as much as possible before we decide. That is all.
Honestly, how could we ever be sure about a choice we made that it is the best one? How much could we ever know about something that has not yet happened to us? About something, we have not yet experienced?
“When making a decision of minor importance, I have always found it advantageous to consider all the pros and cons”Sigmund Freud
The Meaning of Feelings and Decisions
Everyone goes through several different emotions while being in the process of trying to make a decision. However, there is only one thing we can tell for sure which is related to feelings and decisions and that is how we feel the moment we finally make that decision.
Happy? Relieved? Excited? Frightened? Anxious? Terrified?
All the above and even more are possible post-decision-making feelings and usually more than one of them simultaneously. Do they indicate whether the decision was right or wrong? I would say not necessarily.
They indicate exactly what they are and nothing more. Our feelings the moment we made the specific decision. Whether the decision was actually right or wrong, is something that only time can tell for sure.
Embrace Your Choices
Whatever is the choice that is made, what we have to do is embrace our choice and move on as if we are absolutely sure that this choice was the best. And that is because it was the best for us at that specific moment. There is no need to question the choice. Questioning your choice after you have made it would only cause unnecessary suffering, pain, and fear for any future choice.
The most important thing when you have to choose is to actually make a choice.
“In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing”Theodore Roosevelt
Every new decision you make could prove to be a choice that could save your life, change your life, change you and your relationships with others.
Our life becomes what we make it, through the choices we make each and every day. Even the smallest ones can lead us somewhere we have never imagined. Take the time you feel is needed to make your decision but always have in mind that even the wrong decisions become valuable lessons.
Never be afraid to make a decision because you don’t want it to be the wrong one. Every choice you make is the right one the moment you make it. If something goes wrong in the future it might be time just to make a new choice.
You always proceed while having in mind what is best for you. Do not waste your time questioning your old choices in life. Move one holding your experience and lessons you have learned and make new best decisions towards the life you always wanted.
“If you take too long in deciding what to do with your life, you’ll find out you’ve done it”George Bernard Shaw
What about you? What are your thoughts about the decision-making process?