Why being sensitive is not that bad after all

First of all, what do we mean when we say that a person is sensitive? A person called sensitive is strongly affected by what he / she experiences. Recent researches have shown that everyone is more or less sensitive and separated people into three different groups depending on how sensitive one person is. These groups are low, medium, or high and were labelled as dandelions, tulips, and orchids.

For more information related to sensitivity research you may visit https://sensitivityresearch.com/research-on-sensitivity-past-present-and-future/

A highly sensitive person, like me, who has to deal with the brutal reality which has to keep me busy all day long, attend meetings, phone calls,  keep up with numbers, constantly try to prove my value etc. can be easily overwhelmed. 

Quite often my friends and family advise me to stop being that sensitive, to grow up, to become stronger. As if being sensitive is a malfunction or problem.

Honestly, in this society we all live in, we are taught to be fast and efficient in whatever we do. We must be productive and in most cases being sensitive is not considered an asset.

However, I believe my sensitivity and feelings are there every time for a reason. I know that I am able to sense and understand things that other people cannot. They call this intuition. I call it the ability to sense that something is wrong or needs attention. Ability to understand that another human no matter what he says he is not ok.

Ever since I remember myself I could be happily laughing one moment and burst into tears just minutes afterwards even at the sight and only of an injured animal, of an old lady that could not walk by herself, of a child begging for money.

Growing older and having to work for big companies like banks made things worse. I could feel that I was so much different than the others. I usually felt out of place and I would just try to hide myself as much as possible, try to do what I could and just wait for another day to end.

Truth is that when something was not ok I could sense it. If one of my colleagues had a problem or was not feeling ok I could understand it just by taking a look at his face, his expressions or even via phone by the sound of his voice.

I could even understand if there was a problem between some of my coworkers,  what was the new manager‘s opinion about each one of the personnel or if there was some kind of problem with the processes and status of a project. All these just by paying attention to other humans, their expressions and reactions.

How did my colleagues react to this ability of mine? They would call me strange, irrational or would think that I am overreacting in some cases. And to some point they were right because I know that it was hard for them to understand what I was trying to tell them at the time.

For me being in such a position was  disappointing. I have spent most of my life wishing I were different, less sensitive, and less emotional. I just wanted to be harder and crueler in a way. Not being affected by others words, opinions, emotions or expressions.

Lots of people of course had thanked me during my life for being there for them when needed someone to understand, to offer them compassion and kindness. This is of major importance but for some reason seemed not to matter that much compared to my pain and suffering through all those years.

Seemed that my gain compared to what I was losing was meaningless. People continued to underestimate me, doubt me and overlook me. I kept on for years being nothing more than one productive unit which was actually not working as well as others.

Feeling like this made me start trying to develop myself, to try to make myself a bit harder. The thing is that along the way I found out that what I thought was my biggest problem I found out that could prove to be a huge asset if used and not tried to bury it.

Let me point out what I think are the biggest assets of sensitivity.

4 reasons why being sensitive is an advantage

1. You are aware of yourself, your needs and feelings.

Having a deep understanding of who you are and how you are each time of the day is what makes you able to understand what is good and what is bad for you. Being sensitive enough to understand what another person might be going through sets you able to correspond accordingly, taking his feelings into account.

2. You can feel and share compassion

As pointed above compassion provides that someone can be able to understand someone else’s feelings. While living in a cruel and selfish world I consider compassion a strength that could prove to be super power.

3. You can sense when something is wrong

You have the ability to sense things that other people don’t. You are able to catch the vibes, read the faces and expressions, and translate what one says not only by his words but also by the pace, tone and sound of his voice.

4. You can use your sensitivity to be creative

Artists are well known for their sensitivity and their ability to sense emotions. Artists are also well known for their ability to set their emotions on fire with their creations.

For those who read my blog you also know that apart from articles I also share some short stories and poetry. How could I possibly be writing about other people, my heroes, if I were incapable of being in their shoes, thinking their thoughts and feeling their emotions? How could I be writing for other people without being able to inspire them with my heroes’ emotions and thoughts?

“The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this: A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive. To them… a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death. Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create, create, create— so that without the creating of music or poetry or books or buildings or something of meaning, their very breath is cut off… They must create, must pour out creation. By some strange, unknown, inward urgency they are not really alive unless they are creating.” Pearl Buck,The Good Earth

How do you feel about your sensitivity?

Have you embraced it or trying to fight it?

56 thoughts on “Why being sensitive is not that bad after all

  1. Ooh I actually think point #4 is a good one, because my writing’s the best when I have some emotions behind them, and this point here actually makes sense. Thanks for sharing!

    • Hey Stuart! To me creativity and sensitivity are side by side. When the writer is full of emotions how could his writing be left without?
      Thank you for taking time to read me and comment 🙂

  2. Thankyou for sharing this insightful piece. Although I am not possibly as sensitive as you describe here I have been accused of being over sensitive before. I cry when others cry and am apathetic. I cry at the drop of a hat especially watching highly emotional scenes. But I think it is a blessing as like you say it leads to compassion and kindness which are important virtues. I will follow your site as I am interested in reading your short stories and poetry 😊

  3. I’m sensitive too and still wish I wasn’t sometimes. However, like you say, it helps to make us more compassionate. A world without compassion would be worse than Hell.

  4. It’s true! Being sensitive is never wrong. Because it’s ok not to be ok. You can’t lie to people and even yourself when you’re not ok. Plus, being sensitive also helps you to be kind and considerate of others. Thank you for sharing this good post. I’m going to check out the test soon. I want to know my sensitivity level too.

  5. Thanks for sharing! I am far from a sensitive person and often wish I can have more a sensitive person perspective. The good things coming with being sensitive are nice. The ability to have compassion is not something easy to learn. Hope you can make good use of your character and help more people!

    • Thank you Mandy! Each one of us is different and that is perfectly ok. We all should be aware of who we are and make good use of our assets. Glad you took time to read me and share your opinion on it 🙂

  6. I am not a sensitive person but I have absolutely no problem with being sensitive. Being sensitive is not wrong. It makes you relate more with people’s feelings, emotions, and be more compassionate. I’ll take the test.

    • Feeling and showing our emotions is of most important. There are lots of people who do not allow themselves to be sensitive or show their emotions as a sign of weakness. Thank you for taking time to read me and share your opinion it 🙂

  7. The world likes us to be robots with no feelings or sensitivity – that works best for corporations and they want that from employees. But we are humans with emotions who can be affected by different things! I’m an emphatic person. I easily understand others’ emotions and tend to absorb it as well. So if my friend is having a bad day, it bleeds into my day too. Managing that and setting emotional boundaries has been something I’ve worked on for years, and it’s never perfect. But being emphatic helps me form good bonds and be able to help my friends. There are pros and cons, and being sensitive is definitely not a bad thing.

    • Exactly Sumedha! Like everything in this life sensitivity also has its pros and cons. The bad thing is that sensitivity is usually treated as weakness, which of course it isn’t. Empathy is a huge advantage of sensitive people. Thank you so much for reading my post and sharing your opinion about it.

  8. Yes! I am a very sensitive person and it seems to be something that is seen as negative- but these are some great positives. I can tell when a situation or person is off, and I love these positive aspects you’ve highlighted x

    • Sensitivity of course has its pros and cons. The bad thing is that for some reason only the bad aspects of sensitive are usually refered or highlighted by others. Since I spent most of my life blaming myself for being sensitive as it was something that needed to be cured I decided to point out why sensitivity is also a great gift. Take advantage of your gifts fellow sensitive blogger! Glad to read your comment 🙂

  9. I love this post! I’ve always been a sensitive person and you’re so right that it’s an advantage as, I have always found I’m a lot more compassionate towards others because of it xx

    • It seems that the world ww live in tends to focus only on the negative aspects of sensitivity. I needed to point out all the beautiful and positive aspects of sensitivity and I am so glad you liked it! Thank you ❤️

  10. Love this! I’m a highly sensitive person too so this totally resonates with me. Have you read ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’? It explores this in more detail x

  11. When you’re sensitive, you see pain flash past on a person’s face. You see emotions as though they were lines in a face. You spend so much time trying to decode silent messages. It is like looking for patterns in the clouds or in smoke. It can be frustrating and misleading because emotions unlike words are not always what they seem. At the same time, I am glad to be me.

    • Yes being sensitive often means that you get frustrated, you are right! everything comes with a prise after all 🙂
      Thank you for reading it and taking time to comment!

  12. It always interests me that other people (usually friends and family) will see a character trait we have as a negative or see it as something we need to mature out of or get over — often because they don’t have or understand it. Sensitivity is not a flaw, it is how some people navigate their lives. Your points are so valid and affirming — thank you for sharing!

  13. Great post! I’d always thought that me being sensitive was a bad thing but you’ve made me realise it’s not. I definitely agree that sensitive people can show more compassion and sense when something is wrong – it’s like we’ve got a built in sixth sense! Thanks for sharing.

    • I thought of it as a bad thing also but while trying to change it I realized what an asset it is! thank you for taking time to read and comment!

  14. Being sensitive is so much better than the opposite- not being empathetic or understanding your or others’ emotions or conflicts. I am so glad more people are talking about the importance of it!

  15. Very important post! Being sensitive has always been a negative thing rather than a positive thing it seems. But it’s so important to understand others and their emotions!

  16. Hello, wow! What a great post. Being sensitive is always viewed negativity but I love how you’re looking at the positive sides. Really great take on it allowing you to be creative, some of my best work is when I am feeling sensitive and vulnerable. Thanks for sharing, Alicia

  17. Ooo, I just blogged about my feelings of disconnect with the universe. I’m so sensitive with my OCDP that I can’t accomplish anything if I don’t feel “right.”

    Great post and yes, sensitivity is a good thing.

  18. Hiya!
    I really identify with this, you sound like an Empath. It can be quite overwhelming but it is such a great trait to have, just never very useful in the harsh corporate world which is something I learnt x

  19. Great post! I watched my sister get teased relentlessly for being too sensitive. It caused me to over-correct. Now as an adult I have worked hard to become more sensitive because I finally have permission to “feel” things. I think there must be a better balance for us. I’m not sure why parents try to make children behave in ways that aren’t true to themselves. Thank you for pointing out all of the pros to being sensitive!

    • I think parents try to prepare us for the cruel world but trying to do so they sometimes force us to think of parts of our personality as flaus. Everyone is different and sensitive does not mean problematic. Thank you for sharing your opinion on it!

  20. Really nice post, and great insights as well!
    I think I’m by far the most sensitive lad in my friend group, so seeing this post and the benefits of being sensitive made me pretty happy. Though truth be told, I do also want to become more resilient and stoic regardless, since life isn’t very forgiving at times when blasting you😅

  21. Couldn’t agree more about creativity, I think my sensitive side allows me to see things others might not pick up on or in as much detail. I recently wrote post on this topic also so it was refreshing to read from another perspective!

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